Friday, December 2, 2011,
Family Drama
I have recently discovered that, at this age, it is impossible to please your parents. When we were younger, everything we did made them happy. These days, it does the opposite. When we were younger the simplest of achievements were rewarded with a praise or a gift or something. Now, even when you do something well, they always find something else to blame you for. Example: let's say you decide to clean your parents room. and you do an awesome job. but you accidentally forget to put the brooms/ mops/ whatever you used, away and what do your parents do? Instead of praising you for cleaning their room they say you're irresponsible for not putting the cleaning utensils away.
What happened to good old fashioned praising. After getting a lecture about being irresponsible, I never want to clean my room again. I don't understand parents, they were kids once, shouldn't they know how its like? Did they honestly want to improve when their parents just continuously scolded them? Shouldn't they know that these methods simply do not work. They always go on about how they know best due to experience but somehow they don't know how to treat their children. They did a great job when we were kids and i'm not saying that they need to treat us like babies but the principle is the same. Stop with the useless scolding and look at the good things your children do for you.
All I know is that i'll definitely be a better parent than the ones I have now. If your child can correct your parenting methods and actually be right, something is definitely wrong. Its not about the experience, its about the kind of experience. If you've done badly at something for 20 years and someone else only did it for 10 years but is awesome at it I think the other person has more experience. There is not point in having experience in doing the wrong thing.
Dealing with shit like this is probably why i'm losing my mind. My grandmother is also going crazy (not the one that stays with me) I went to stay over with her and my cousin for a few days. Torture. She keeps making us do things for us and scolding us for everything. The worst part is all the adults side with her. Their excuse is that she's old. Oh come on, when little kids annoy me my parents say that they're young so its okay. Now being old is also okay? Then when is it not okay? If adults so something wrong, it's okay because they're working and under stress. So in other words teenagers are the only ones who are not allowed to make mistakes? This shit is seriously fucked up and I refuse to take any of it. I do not see a reason to listen to/ respect people older than me who do not treat me with equal respect.
So what if you think i'm disrespectful. I AM. and I don't give a fuck.
xoxoxo
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